If your child is going to a party or giving a party
at your home the below tips may be helpful:
Going to a Party?
Call the host
- Make sure the host parents will be home all evening and that no alcohol or drugs will be allowed.
- Let the host parent know your child’s transportation plans.
Check party plans beforehand
- Know where your child is going and with whom.
- When taking your child to a party, wait to see that she/he is inside the house.
- If you don’t know the host parents, introduce yourself.
In the event that alcohol or other drugs find their way into the party
- Make it easy for your child to leave; pre-arrange for her/him to call you (or a designated adult) for a ride home.
- Establish a code word with your child in case she/he needs to leave without letting peers know.
- You might have an understanding that there will be no punishment for a call about things getting out of hand.
- Remind your child that friendship includes dissuading friends from drinking and driving.
Be aware than many underage drinking parties in our community take place outdoors in parks, at the beach or local hotels/motels.
Be up to greet your child when she/he comes home.
Giving a Party?
Plan in advance
- Limit the number of guests by invitation only
- Do not allow your child to promote the party on social media – Instagram, Snapchat, Facebook, etc
- Know how your guests are getting home
Set a time limit
- Make sure everyone knows clearly what time the party is ending so that their rides are on time.
Agree to rules ahead of time and ensure the guests understand the rules in your home, such as:
- No drugs or alcohol
- No leaving the party and returning
- No gate-crashing
- Lights on and doors open
- Some rooms of the house are off limits
- No outside food or drinks brought in the house
- No cigarettes or e-cigs.
Invite over another parent
- Other adults are company for you during a long evening and can help with problems.
- Invite parents to stop in and introduce themselves that night when they drop off their kids.
- Set the example that you can enjoy an evening without drugs and alcohol.
- Circulate through party rooms frequently.
Plan for fun!
- Offer food and plenty of non-alcoholic drinks.
- Plan some activities such as movies, dancing, sports, karaoke, Wii tournament, etc.
Stay home for the entire party. Be visible and be aware.